Dear Strong-Willed Child

Close up portrait of disobedient child demanding attention. Little Caucasian girl feeling aggravated naughty and stubborn. With her mischievous behavior she looks wicked.

Dear Strong-Willed Child,

I know.

I know, it’s so hard right now. It feels like nothing goes right, like you’re not right.

You have to fight for what you want, to be heard, to be taken seriously.

Sometimes you have to yell. To get all the feelings out.

You’re certain you know, all ready. You don’t know why we have to repeat ourselves.


You don’t understand why you can’t wear those shoes, why you have to bring a coat, why homework needs to be done now, why everyone interrupts.

At times, everything feels wrong. It feels like you get in trouble, while others run free.

At times, it may even feel like you are bad.

Like your sister is the good one.

I know it’s hard right now. And life, though full of fun and laughter and ice cream, seems like a fight.

But this strong will that you have, it’s a good thing, it’s a blessing. And I am so, so very glad you have it.

In 10, in 20 years? This strong will, this fight you have, will serve you in ways you can only imagine.

That fight will keep you from true trouble, it will keep you from making the real mistakes, it will keep you safe on a date, at a party, when you’re surrounded by the wrong crowd.

That fight will get you into college, into programs, help you finish school.

That fight will ensure your voice is heard. It will scare away weak partners, the ones who would silence you if they could.

That fight will get you the job, the raise, the promotion. It will quiet your fears and your insecurities. It will hush the neigh-sayers, those negative, fearful people on the side-lines.

So baby, I know it’s hard right now. You don’t understand why your Little girl showing stop gesture to angry mother while sitting in bed at homepreschool teacher forces you to finish your food, why in Kindergarten you have to stand in line. You don’t get why I would ever give you advice on anything, when you just want to do it yourself or why your father tells you to clean your room, now.

This will, it’s a blessing. I promise it is. It’s hard right now, at 6-years-old, but it won’t be hard forever.

And I am so glad you this is who you are. I hope you are, too. I wouldn’t want it any other way.



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2 Responses

  1. Bhanu says:

    Power to her! It’s great that you are respecting and embracing her strong will. She will take on the world with ambition and never let anyone stand in her way!

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